We Are Bisexuality: Kait

#WeAreBisexuality is a month-long campaign to share the stories of Bisexuals during Bisexual Visibility Month. Stories and photographs shared with the permission of the parties involved. Share your story with us all throughout Bisexual Visibility Month.

Kait is a 28 year old bisexual woman, and her coming out story goes like this –

“I came out to my mom as gay before I came out as bi, because I was hoping I could just be a lesbian and not have to worry about constantly defending my sexuality or being erased. I started coming out in high school when I co-founded my school’s GSA. In college, I identified mostly as gay, honestly to win the attraction of a lesbian friend who was skeptical of bisexuality. In my first job, I felt erased and kept my sexuality largely quiet. But now, I’m studying bisexuality and non-monosexual identities as part of my PhD program. I am finally totally open in class, at conferences, to faculty and peers, and I could not be happier!”

Coming out, she had some struggles –

“I have wished many times I could be gay. I know I am a part of the LGB community, so I’ve never wished to be straight, but I have wished for a sexual identity that doesn’t face the same stigmatization that bisexuality does. People seem more willing to accept lesbians than bi women. No, I’m not faking and it is not a phase! ”

And she has some advice for bisexuals that haven’t come out yet –

“Coming out is so important for bisexual visibility, but so is your safety. There is nothing shameful or cowardly about being closeted or being selective about who you tell. Your survival is the most important thing! But if/when you feel safe and ready, there is an amazing community of people out there who love you. The internet can be a great place to start coming out and finding that support”

Her hope for the bisexual community is that we –

” – will be fully embraced by our lesbian and gay peers, and that bi folx’ contribution to the LGBTQ+ community will be recognized and celebrated. ”


Join Kait in sharing her story by using the hashtag #WeAreBisexuality on social media all throughout September


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