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Leah is a 20 year old bisexual woman realized she was bisexual because of some celebrity girl crushes-
“Truthfully, I didn’t realize not everyone felt the same way about their favorite female celebrities or thought the same things about the cute girls at school for a long time. Then one day in high school, I just realized “”Oh wait. This is, like,… really gay huh?”” and went from there. I texted all my friends (who were incredibly supportive), and I took a deep breath and decided I needed to tell my parents. I told them separately because I knew my dad would handle it better than my mom. That night, my dad and I were sitting on our front porch together, drinking soda and listening to music, and I just said, “”Hey, Dad? I think I like girls and boys and… anyone.”” And he paused for a moment and said, “”Well, alright then.”” and we continued what we were doing.
When I told my mom, I was met with a lot of questions (“”since when?””; “”I would support you, but you’ve never said anything like this before?””; etc). I also experienced my first bout of biphobia with her, as she firmly believes (believed? I honestly don’t know…) that bisexual people can never be satisfied with one person, that it’s okay to have queer feelings but not okay to act on them, etc. When my dad left for a month long work trip, I was so worried things were going to explode between me and my mom. They didn’t, but I left for college still uncertain my mom would ever come around.
I suppose now everyone has accepted it. I never told my extended family, but my parents did, so I’m pretty sure everyone knows. I’ve only had two comments on my sexuality (one very kind one and one very squicky one). Of course, coming out is an ongoing process. Every person I meet, if I want to truly be longterm or close friends, I’ll have to come out at some point. However, I’m not as scared to do it now, and I’m lucky enough to live in a generally accepting place. “
She felt like she was faking it for a while-
“Like I said before, I really didn’t even understand that not everyone felt the same as I did. Then, after coming out, I had a moment where I was afraid I was just “faking it” or something, because that is what I was asked most commonly. It was gross and stressful, but I’ve come out of it and am now proud to tell anyone and everyone about being bisexual!”
And wants bisexuals everywhere to know-
“You! Are! Valid!! Being bisexual is literally so cool and so great! It’s okay to be afraid and it’s okay to be confused about your feelings, but it’s even better to live your truest self (if it is safe to do so). I love you all, and I hope you find a place in the community, even if you’re not “out” yet. ”
And wants coming out to become less stressful for bisexuals everywhere-
“I hope that someday coming out as bisexual won’t be such a confusing or shocking thing for anyone. I wish that bisexual folx could be accepted fully in the LGBTQIA3+ community, and not policed by others. I hope that someday every bisexual can be happily, proudly out!”