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Sarah is a 24 year old demisexual, polyamorous, bisexual women, who has had to come out in different ways to different people-
“I have many [coming out stories] depending on the person I’ve come out to. It’s been a two step process since I am bi and also polyamorous and have two partners. So I’m very on guard with who I trust. Most of my coworkers have been really great, since I work in a very queer friendly and lesbian run shop. I’ve had one coworker basically just stop talking to me though. My parents don’t know yet, but I’ve told my sister and she was like ‘oh OK’ and left it as no big deal which is perfect.”
She has, and still does, deal with some internalization, but has something to say to those in her boat-
“It’s okay to struggle. It’s okay to take your time. However, you’ll probably never feel like the time is right to come out, but coming out is a gigantic weight off of the mind. I am not out to everyone, so I feel like I can’t really comment too much, but most of the people i have come out to have been lovely and understanding, so it is worth it to me.
I still struggle with it. I am only out to select people. However when I am out w my same sex partner I don’t hold back showing affection. I do the same as I would with my boyfriend. I still get pangs of shame, more so about seeming like a stereotype bi with two partners of different genders. Another layer is being seen as sex-crazed (not necessarily a bad thing) or greedy, while I am very demisexual and only with my partners.”
And has a wish not only for the bisexual community, but also in regards to monogamous and polyamorous bisexuals-
“[My hope is] to be recognized within the lgbt+ community. To have people take monogomous bisexuals seriously, and to not call them gay/straight depending on their relationship. To have non-monogamous bisexuals be taken seriously and see their relationships as valid. For monosexuals to treat us with the respect we deserve. For ace/aro biromantics and bisexuals to be accepted.”