We Are Bisexuality; Ray

#WeAreBisexuality is a month-long campaign to share the stories of Bisexuals during Bisexual Visibility Month. Stories and photographs shared with the permission of the parties involved. Share your story with us all throughout Bisexual Visibility Month.

Ray is an agender 17 year old bisexual who tried for a long time to ignore who they were-

“In a sense, I tried to pray the gay away. And when I came out, no one was surprised really but people still attacked me for it as if I should have done more in an effort to erase it. I turned to sex and other unhealthy coping mechanisms to deal with the hate that I received. I’ve been called dyke and fag and have been followed by groups of teenage boys for being conventionally attractive and bi to some extent. This behavior was treated as okay simply because I’m queer. People often told me that it’s not a big deal and I should just let people hate me. I went back into the closet and am trying to come out again.”

They have a simple, and personal, wish for their own journey-

“I just want to be happy. I’ve been physically and verbally attacked by strangers and by family. I was one of the few queer kids at the time around me who was out AND openly talked about activism.  “

And a simple message for those in similar position-

‘It’s okay. Take your time. This is who you are and that’s okay. It’s okay to be afraid and it’s okay to go back in the closet. It’s okay. No one should tell you how to be queer.’



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